Day dreaming our time away can be therapeutic in relieving our everyday stress. Maybe, as our thoughts float along, they drift towards the attractive cashier we chatted with yesterday, or the cute teacher at our kids school. No matter our social or marital status, all of us tend to think of another - innocently or otherwise. So, all you day dream believers, have you had a thought bubble pop up that was ironically devoid of your loving partner?
I'm guilty. I'm married, and ever so guilty. I know I shouldn't think of others, and I love my husband so much, but let's be real - he is NOT the only man I find visually appealing. There's no escaping it. And I'm not so stupid to think that he doesn't find other women attractive, too. Honestly, we're married, not dead! So what if I happen to fantasize for a brief moment about the super hot car salesman I talked to? I have no intention of running away with the guy. Hell, I don't plan on ever seeing him again...but damn, was he hot! Sometimes, when I'm sitting in a waiting room, or if I'm bored to death, I'll let my mind wander. I don't see how that's a bad thing, either. It can help perk me up when I'm feeling bitchy, and who doesn't benefit from that?! I have had day dreams about others, as well as pretty hot fantasies involving my hubby, and I think that as long as the ones concerning others stays in your head and you never act on it, it is completely ok. ~A.S. | Fantasizing about someone aside from my husband? Yes. But, not in the obviously and easily assumed matter of such sexual exploits that leave me hot and bothered when I come back to reality. No, on the rare occasion that I do have a dream with someone other than my husband as my counterpart, it is usually some famous Hollywood actor (who, ironically, looks extremely similar to my husband) and it isn't anything beyond a chance encounter. A situation where I find him holding the door for me or complimenting the phenomenal car I'm driving, which could only ever happen in a dream, anyhow. Not sure why, really, but I really could not envision another man with his hands on me, not even in fantasy. Even now, as I try to push it, something about the idea of it, the visual - even in it's falsehood - it just doesn't sit well with me and I just can't. Perhaps my creative imaginary mind falls flat in the sexual department, real or otherwise? Maybe I'm just that much of a Square? Either way, I'm fine with the chivalry I'm shown in my innocent fantasies.I don't need to envision in Fantasy Land some other man pushing my panties to the side when I have a very loving, willing, and capable husband in Reality. -Y.S. |